SICK

[amalthya]

... And fucking ballsy

So sometimes you have a mini-romance with someone, and it doesn't work out. It happens. But if it's not messy, and you're all friends with each other, and you still spend time together and have fun, there's no reason to make it ugly.

I guess I just need to unload this, and it shouldn't bother to stress over it considering how wonderfully things in life are going right now. But I'll just mention it for posterity.

A friend has been purposefully excluding me from group events, despite the time we've spent together recently being fun. Which feels crappy, but I can live with it. It's okay. Not everyone needs to enjoy spending time with me. Promise.

I recently discovered, however, that he'd e-stalked a friend I'd introduced him to last time we were out. A girl. One of my best friends. Not only does it take extra effort to e-stalk someone, but does it have to be someone I know? Behind my back? Ignoring me but macking on my friends?

I guess more than the anger, there's the hurt. Or the frustration. Or the feeling of disrespect.



...And the hurt.


Sometimes, people just suck.

Comments

[rosefox]

Wow. Classy.

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

You're telling me.

[kinfae.livejournal.com]

Sometimes e-stalking people is easier these days than the actual effort of say, asking for a phone number in RL would be.

I have no idea who you're talking about, so no idea on the level of hurt.

But I'm sorry that you feel that way.

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

I feel like, more than anything, she should have either been off-limits or he could be nice/civil to me and find her through me...

But thanks for the sympathy.

[kinfae.livejournal.com]

It's hard to tell, since I don't know all the details. He might have been just trying to be nice and not hurt your feelings? Like, let's suppose he has a date or two with you, then doesn't want to go out again, but does want to go out with your friend. I can't see most guys saying, "Hey, I don't want to date you anymore, but how's your friend?" because they might assume you would either be hurt or sabotage them. The no-contact is definitely wrong, but I don't know about approaching through you. Likewise, if you haven't had a serious relationship, I don't necessarily assume that friends are off-limits, because, seriously, otherwise, how would the Stackers survive?

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

Ehh, it wasn't really a stacker-related thing. Neither the guy nor the girl in question is really "part of the old group"

[kinfae.livejournal.com]

Oh. Because I'm just saying...Stacker dynamics and reality dynamics bear no relation to each other.

[techempage.livejournal.com]

~hugs~

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

Thanks ;)

[gatsbys-regret.livejournal.com]

Actually, wouldn't it take less effort to e-stalk someone, than to stalk them r/t?

At least, that's my experience...

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

MySpace, Rick! My Fucking Space.

[franklymydear.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry that had to happen! You can never predict the future when you bring two people together - and it really sucks when the result is suckiness. :(

*pets*

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

Well, she's not interested, and is more interested in protecting me, and I guess too that I'm just embarrassed on top of it all...

[slipjig.livejournal.com]

Oh, ye gods' golden gravy boat.... *kicks the e-stalker*

[amalthya.livejournal.com]

Is it what MySpace is for? ;)